How to be Mentally Strong Mike Gillette Secrets for Anyone.
For all the time executives spend concerned about physical strength
and health, when it comes down to it, mental strength can mean even more.
Particularly for entrepreneurs, numerous articles talk about critical
characteristics of mental strength—tenacity, “grit,” optimism,
and an unfailing ability as Forbes contributor David Williams says,to “fail up.”
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However, we can also define mental strength by identifying the things
mentally strong individuals don’t do. Over the weekend,
I was impressed by this list compiled by Amy Morin, a psychotherapist
and licensed clinical social worker, that she shared in LifeHack.
It impressed me enough I’d also like to share her list here along with my
thoughts on how each of these items is particularly applicable to entrepreneurs.
1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves.
You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances
or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated.
They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes,
and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently
life is not fair. They are able to emerge from trying circumstances
with self-awareness and gratitude for the lessons learned.
When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such as
“Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”
2. Give Away Their Power. Mentally strong people avoid giving others
the power to make them feel inferior or bad.
They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions.
They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.
3. Shy Away from Change. Mentally strong people embrace change
and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,” if they have one,
is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and stagnant.
An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally
strong person and bring out their best.
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4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Mentally strong people
don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage, or especially
about other people, as they recognize that all of these factors are
generally beyond their control. In a bad situation,they recognize that
the one thing they can always control is their own response and attitude,
and they use these attributes well.
5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Know any people pleasers?
Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others
as a way of reinforcing an image of strength?
Neither position is a good one.
A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair
and to please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up.
They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will get upset
and will navigate the situation, wherever possible,with grace.
6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks.
A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks.
This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks.
But with mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks
and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential downsides
and even the worst-case scenarios before they take action.
7. Dwell on the Past. There is strength in acknowledging the past
and especially in acknowledging the things learned from past experiences
—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid miring their mental energy
in past disappointments or in fantasies of the “glory days” gone by.
They invest the majority of their energy in creating
an optimal present and future.
8. Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over.
We all know the definition of insanity, right? It’s when we take the same
actions again and again while hoping for a different and better outcome
than we’ve gotten before. A mentally strong person accepts
full responsibility for past behavior and is willing to learn from mistakes.
Research shows that the ability to be self-reflective in an accurate
and productive way is one of the greatest strengths of
spectacularly successful executives and entrepreneurs.
9. Resent Other People’s Success. It takes strength of character
to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success.
Mentally strong people have this ability.
They don’t become jealous or resentful when others succeed
(although they may take close notes on what the individual did well).
They are willing to work hard for their own chances at success,
without relying on shortcuts.
10. Give Up After Failure. Every failure is a chance to improve.
Even the greatest entrepreneurs are willing to admit that their
early efforts invariably brought many failures.
Mentally strong people are willing to fail again and again,
if necessary,as long as the learning experience from every “failure”
can bring them closer to their ultimate goals.
11. Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people enjoy and even treasure
the time they spend alone. They use their downtime to reflect,
to plan, and to be productive. Most importantly,
they don’t depend on others to shore up their happiness and moods.
They can be happy with others, and they can also be happy alone.
12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Particularly in the current economy,
executives and employees at every level are gaining the realization that
the world does not owe them a salary, a benefits package and
a comfortable life, regardless of their preparation and schooling.
Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed
on their merits, at every stage of the game.
13. Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan,
a nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people
are “in it for the long haul”. They know better than to expect
immediate results. They apply their energy and time in measured doses
and they celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way.
They have “staying power.” And they understand that genuine
changes take time. Do you have mental strength? Are there elements
on this list you need more of? With thanks to Amy Morin,
I would like to reinforce my own abilities further
in each of these areas today. How about you?